Sex work is an act of selling oneself for money or monetary gains. This takes various forms like brothel sex work, roadside sex work, uptown or middle class sex work among others .In our developing world this is more identified with women than men thus morally looked at as erosion of both cultural and religious values in society and community .This has attracted name shaming ,finger pointing, discrimination,judgements ,castigations,illegality,stigma,contempt as arrows directed towards women who sell themselves for money as sex is usually constructed in our cultures for marriage, procreation rather than money or business.
Subsequently hard life experiences, need for better standards of living, high illiteracy levels with no hands on skills ,rural urban migration, need to take care of their parents, high prospection of getting a job in the city pull them whilst peer pressure, absence or need for academic qualifications to do the work, need for survival, need to take care of their children and family coupled with high unemployment levels, after effects of Covid 19,refugee status for refugees and need to meet their basic needs force many women especially in the red-light districts to join this business as an avenue of getting money to cope with the high standards and cost of living especially in the urban and peri urban areas.
Comparatively trying another side of the shoe, many of us give out our bodies sexually to acquire the latest iPhone or camon,getting lunch from a posh restaurant with nice foods, plaiting a nice hairstyle, getting our manicure and pedicure done, somehow we use sex as a tool to get our fiancés/boyfriends marry us, fill our car tanks with fuel, waive a court case in our favour,get companionship and acceptance ,acquire a leadership seat, clear our electricity and rent arrears and dues admittedly yet most of the means to get all this done involves money and the end is most assuredly sex .
Ironically, we are the same people who judge and throw the first stone at these particular women for the work they do to put food on their table, meet their expenses as well as take their children to school as a way of not taking their footsteps in doing the same work yet if we are to turn the
mirrors to ourselves we may not like how the truth makes us look like as are focusing on castigating or stigmatizing others for sinning differently from us and treat them as outcasts or the greatest sinners.
Rather than judging and identifying these women by what they do, let us change our perspectives towards them and remember that they are still women who are human and also mothers let not their work be used as a tape measure or yardstick to demean them, make them look like bad mothers, or less of humanity but we should look at the fact that these women are humans whose rights need to be upheld, allow them express their autonomy in making life choices as well as seeking services they are entitled to as citizens without stigma and treat their children as children irrespective of the kind of work their mothers do rather than the sex names we hurl at them as we usually do in the community and open spaces.